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The following give you a real-life opportunity to practice child socialization strategies and techniques from chapter four. You will be given several weeks to practice, write a reflection paper, and submit by the due date. Do each of these on separate occasions (and repeat to gain experience and practice if possible). After you have completed all four, write at least a 3 paged, double-spaced summary on how well they went. Do not write an explanation of the strategies; rather, detail what you and the child did, said, and interacted in each scenario. What was the outcome? Would you change anything to make them more effective? Please put paragraph headings of the strategies below in your paper.
Four Pluses and a Wish
From Chapter 4, pick any child age 2-16 (yours or someone else’s who is familiar with you) and go through the strategic steps for motivating a child’s compliance. If they don’t comply the first time, think of what could have interfered. Did you abruptly approach them while they were engaged in an activity? Remember to transition carefully and give time for the child to comply. Try again, and choose your approach wisely.
Four Goals of Misbehavior
From Chapter 4 and the graphic in the online lesson, identify a situation where a child (ages 3-16) is misbehaving and which goal is motivating that misbehavior. After you have identified the goal, follow the guidelines to respond appropriately to the behavior to re-direct it in a positive way and fulfill the needs of the child.
After reading the Module 4 online lesson on emotional coaching and validation, identify a situation where a child (ages 5-16) expresses a strong emotion. Review the section in Chapter 4 on Active Listening, and use this situation to identify the child’s motives, and how to validate what the child is feeling. Remember, this is not to solve their problem, minimize how they feel, or jump in with value judgments. It is only an opportunity for you to let the child know you hear them and care about how they are feeling.
Resolving Parent-Child Conflict (The No-Lose Method of Conflict Resolution)
Use the steps to resolving conflict (problem solving) from Chapter 4 with a child, ages 5-16. Make sure there are options available to you and the child that you can agree to before you offer this type of strategy! On step 2, ask the child what are some options instead of offering them yourself. If they don’t have any, ask them if they would like some ideas from you before you give any options. Be sure you both agree on options and throw out ones you both can’t agree to. On step 3, have the child evaluate the pros and cons of the available choices. Give them feedback if needed, such as “That one doesn’t work for me.” Redefine options if necessary. The child must ultimately be the one to decide (with your approval, of course) on the solution in order to feel ownership. Go through the rest of the steps.